Stop Passing Judgment On One Another

There's a passage in Romans that I've read many times. Romans, chapter fourteen. Paul is writing to a community that had been dividing itself over what was permissible to eat, food, sacrifice to idols, the observance of certain days, the question of what a mature faith looked like versus an immature one. The details feel specific to their moment, the structure underneath them is the same one this podcast has been examining since episode two. Verse thirteen says, therefore, let us stop passing judgment on one another.

We talked about that, but the seed was pointing at something more specific than the instruction itself. Paul doesn't stop at the instruction. He names what the judgment itself is actually doing and what it's doing to the one issuing it. The full verse Therefore, let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister. Most people, including myself, for many many years, read this as don't judge because your judgment might hurt someone else.

That's still the core room. The judgment is wrong because of its effect on the other person. That still requires two separate people, a cause and an effect, a verdict and a victim.

But Paul doesn't say the judgment hurts the other person. He says it puts a stumbling block in their way. A stumbling block isn't a weapon. It's an obstacle in a path, something that stops or inhibits movement, something that keeps a person from going where they were going. The judgment, not the behavior being judged, but the judgment itself is what stops movement. The jailer and the prisoner are in the same cell. The judgment doesn't just affect the one being judged, It stops the movement of the one issuing the judgment.

The stumbling block isn't placed in front of the other person, It's placed in front of both. Paul knew this. He was pointing at the mechanics, not just the morality. Verse seventeen says, for the Kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit. The community Paul was writing to had made the kingdom a courtroom whose dietary practices were correct, who was observing the right days, who had the more mature faith all of it the same structure we've been examining, a standard, a comparison, a verdict, a stumbling block placed in the path of everyone inside it.

Paul says, the kingdom isn't any of that. Righteousness, peace and joy, not compliance, not correctness, not the managed relationship between two separate people who have finally learned to tolerate each other's dietary choices. The word righteousness here is the same root examined in episode twenty two. Acting in accordance with your own nature, being true to what you actually are.

It's not a legal standard being met. It's the state of being what you are. Peace not as the absence of conflict between separate parties. Peace is what is present when the premise that required the conflict was never real.

The kingdom is not the courtroom. It never was. The community built the courtroom. The text never required it. That's the same finding as first John, same text, same tradition, same false premise imported into words that were never pointing there.

Verse nineteen says, let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. The word effort here surprises most people. It sounds like the work Paul is recommending requires striving the economy of striving with a more spiritual vocabulary. It doesn't. The word translated as effort means to pursue, to follow after, to move toward. It's the same word used elsewhere for running towards something, not laboring to construct something, but moving in the direction of something that's already present.

Peace is not built. Peace is moved toward, which means it was already there before the movement began. Mutual edification that means building up not of a structure, but of a person. And it's mutual, which means it flows in both directions simultaneously, which means it doesn't require two separate people managing their relationship more skillfully. It requires the recognition that the separation the management was designed to bridge was never real. The work of peace in this passage isn't the self improvement conversation about better communication, regulated nervous systems, and more skillful boundary setting.

It's the movement toward what was always there before the courtroom, before the judgment, before the premise that made both necessary. The series started with a question about imposter syndrome, which was a question about the feeling of not being enough, which was a question about what generated that feeling, which was a question about where the thinking was coming from. We followed that question all the way back through the economy of striving, the false menu, the ego, the courtroom, the apology transaction, the jailers sell, the text, the limits of perception, the right fighter, the boundary, the let them philosophy, the nervous system's courtroom, and we arrived here.

Romans, chapter fourteen,

Paul telling a community that had made the kingdom into a courtroom. Stop not because judgment is unkind because the judgment is the stumbling block. Because the kingdom was never the courtroom, because peace was already present before the premise that required the conflict was installed. Same thread, same source, two thousand years apart. The fracture was interpreted, the repair was never necessary, which means the one who was supposedly not enough was never actually in question. Just remember what you are.

Stop passing judgment on one another, not because it's wrong, because the judgment was always the stumbling block.

The kingdom was never the courtroom. Sit with this

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